When I saw this E card on Pinterest, I literally laughed out loud! I cannot even begin to tell you how many HUNDREDS OF TIMES people have told me to “just relax and then I’ll get pregnant.” I know that they were all just trying to help. But let me tell you, from my point of view, all that does is make me cringe.
If you have ever struggled with infertility yourself, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. It is so hard to get babies off the brain when you want to be pregnant more than anything else in the world. Then you mix “baby brain” with taking fertility medications, charting, numerous Doctor appointments and crazy hormones to the mix, and your basically a raving lunatic! How many raving lunatics do you know that excel in relaxation methods? That’s what I thought!
For me, the best thing that has helped me lately is just simply having my new blog and YouTube channel to focus on. Anything that takes my mind off getting pregnant is greatly appreciated. You might have noticed lately if you follow me on Instagram, (thesaltlifewife) that my hubby and I have been staying really busy lately. Well that’s no coincidence! We try to do a lot of things together to keep our minds off getting preggars, but also to help keep our romance alive while we deal with all the stress that infertility can put on couples.
I think I’m pretty qualified to give advice on this subject. Especially since we have dealt with this for over 8 years. I am thankful that we “took a break” from trying though, in between. Because I think we had both just gotten so mentally worn down after all those years that our hearts and heads were not in the right place anyways. And after a series of serious events that happened in our lives after we quit trying, looking back now on our lives, it’s probably a good thing we didn’t have a baby back then. I won’t bore you with all the details but lets just say we had a serious family illness with my Dad where I had to help him when he had Cancer. And then later on our best friend got shot in the head and suffered a traumatic brain injury. So my husband and I moved into a special handi cap home with him and his family to help them with not only his care, but also to help out with their children. If we would’ve had kids of our own during those situations, there is no way we could have ever helped in the ways we did. So we both feel like God didn’t give us a baby back then because he knew the trials that we were about to endure.
But now we feel like we have “sown our seeds” and done his will, so now it is our time. I don’t know how soon this is going to happen for us. But somehow, I just know in my heart that he IS going to give us our little miracle.
I think that just by writing about our story here on my blog, and talking about it on my YouTube channel has already helped me grow and heal from this so much. And I’ve met a wonderful new friend through the YouTube community that is also struggling with infertility. She just did a video this past weekend about her struggle and story and it literally broke my heart. I could not stop crying as I watched my sweet friend talk about how bad she’s hurting. If you would like to follow her channel as well it is “Kassie Moon” and here is the link to her video:
I’m sure that she would love and appreciate your support as well. So ladies, if you know of someone in your personal lives who is struggling with infertility too, just listen. That’s the best thing you can do for her. And please whatever you do, don’t tell her to “just relax” because we hear that all the time!
Thank you all so very much for reading my own story and for supporting me. I appreciate all of the positive comments and prayers so much! It is with all of your prayers and support that I know is gonna help us to get our little miracle.
Thanks for reading!
Stay Beautiful & Blessed!